Tuesday, September 8, 2009

"Not Even in my Dreams"

About a year and a half ago I came across a coupon in the newspaper for $100.00 off a spa treatment. After going through pages of ads to clip out favored coupons for 50 cents off this or dollar off that, a hundred bucks off something just blew me away!  Which got me thinking, if they were willing to take $100 bucks off their prices, how much were they charging to begin with??
As I kept flipping through the ads I came across similar large dollar coupons for other cosmetic treatments like facials, laser hair removal, spider vein treatments, and lasik eye surgery.
I did not need to clip and save any of those coupons.
But, the more I thought about it, the more depressed I got.
I have never been to a spa. 
I've never gotten a mani/pedi. 
I've never gone to get a massage. 
I've never gone to a hair salon to have it dyed or styled. 
I've hardly ever even gotten a haircut.
I have never been anywhere to be scrubbed, plucked, painted, or pampered....
It made me wonder what I was missing out on.  Now, I have never been part of a very affluent family.  The idea of spending any large amount of money purely on myself seems selfish and unheard of!  I have a hard time accepting (what I think to be expensive) gifts from my husband.  Much to our mutual frustration.  I haven't even splurged on new clothes in the last few years, and I had a baby since then! 
So, I feel that I have nothing in common with the kind of women who have experienced any of these pampering type services.  As I continued to ponder about it, I wondered if that made me any "less" of a woman.  All the advertisements seemed to imply that this was the kind of activity I was expected to indulge in at least once in a while.  *sigh* 
I forget what my husband did or said to cheer me up after all those depressing thoughts.  But I soon forgot all about it, and moved on with my life.
So, why bring it up now? 
Well, the other night I was having another one of the strange dreams that my latest medication dosage increase has been inducing, and I dreamt the following:
At some point late in the dream, I was somewhere, and ran into my mom. She was getting ready to check-in at a spa, along with one of my sisters.  Since I was there as well, my mother asked if I wanted to go to the spa as well, and she would pay for it.  After hesitating, I thanked her and declined because it seemed too expensive and frivolous to waste money on.  Besides, I think I was supposed to be running away from some bad guy, and I was trying to find my husband and kids....
So, when I woke up from this dream, the first thing I thought was, "Man!  I missed my chance for some pampering!"  *laughs*
*sigh* Not even in my dreams....


  1. I've never been the really girly girl type, either. The very first time I received a manicure was about 5 years ago and it was amazing and I'm not really the type to paint my fingernails at home! I've had many manis, a few pedis, and even a back massage since then and it is so worth it to have that time for yourself when someone else is taking care of you!

    I completely understand your guilt in taking time for yourself and spending money on yourself (I'm a mom, too) but sometimes you need to do that for your own sanity. I'm not sure where you live in Indy, but you can always go to a beauty college and get the same treatment and pampering but at a lower price.

    Honors Beauty College is off of 96th St. (close to Fishers) and they have very reasonable prices. (www.honorsbeautycollege.com). But if this one is too far away, you can always search for beauty schools close to you. I say you should go for it!!!!

  2. If it's any consolation - and somenow I don't think you're thinking about this years later - I've never done any of those things either.

    (This is Tracy - I don't have a blogspot account.)